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Dear Auntie, A colleague and I have started going out together. We work in the same office and the HR rules state t...
Dear Auntie, A colleague and I have started going out together. We work in the same office and the HR rules state that colleagues should inform their line managers if they start a relationship. The trouble is, my line manager is my ex and I also had a brief fling with her PA (while going out with my line manager). I don't really want either of them to find out. What should I do?

MS, Liverpool

Dear MS, Maybe you should keep your work and love lives separate? It sounds as though you see yourself as the office Lothario and get some sad pleasure out of dating and dumping your female colleagues. You want to watch out or you'll get a terrible reputation. If I were you I would think long and hard about why you're going out with your latest girlfriend. Is it because you like her or because you like the excitement of a forbidden love affair?

Dear Auntie, I want to sack one of my members of staff - he's incompetent, rude and, what's worse, has the most terrible BO. What should I do?

KL, Scotland.

Dear KL, You can't sack someone just because they have bad BO. You've mentioned incompetency and rudeness but it sounds like it's his pong that's really got to you. You do realise there are procedures for getting rid of people? As for the BO, why don't you organise that staff take part in a secret Santa. Everyone in the office buys a small gift and you distribute them in a lucky dip - just make sure your colleague gets some deodorant or shower gel.

Dear Auntie, I'm really fed up of local government and I fancy a career change. Do you have any suggestions?

GA, East Midlands

Dear GA, You're not giving me much to go on. Zoo keeping, flower arranging? Local government isn't that bad, surely? Security, good pension, you can work anywhere in the country, a range of careers on offer, good money if you get to the top. Why not see if there's something else you could do within the authority.

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